Seeking Your Presence
Difficulties conceiving a child can be emotionally draining. You may experience feelings of shame, guilt, depression, or inadequacy. While it is easy to get caught up in the challenges of the past or hopes for the future, it is important that you focus on what is certain– the present.
Our caring psychologists will help you cope with your emotions so you can bring a sense of comfort, pleasure and presence to your daily life.
How do you cope with the inherent stress related to miscarriage and fertility concerns? How do you keep from growing distant from your partner during this time? Contact us to find out about our individual and couples therapy services.
- Take note of how you breathe. Avoid short, shallow breaths that can heighten tension. Instead, draw deep, controlled breaths from your belly.
- Incorporate belly breathing into idle moments such as sitting at a traffic light or waiting for an elevator. Place your hands over your stomach and breathe in through your nose as your belly expands out. Then, exhale fully through your mouth. Repeat this cycle five times.
- Gentle physical touch has been shown to enhance physiological and emotional functioning. Enjoy the power of healing touch. Schedule a professional massage, hold hands with your partner, or pet your dog.
- Physical activity is also a great way to improve your mood. Put on your walking shoes, join a yoga class or try a game of WiiFit.
Connect with Your Partner
- Many couples with conception concerns have difficulty sharing their feelings. Often one partner has a need to discuss the issue while the other wants to avoid the topic, leading to mutual frustration.
- To avoid growing distant, create safe conditions to discuss sensitive issues. If you are still having trouble seeing eye to eye, consider seeing a couples therapist to facilitate meaningful dialogue.
Gimme a Break
- When you just can’t shake your distressing thoughts, take a “mental break.” Divert your attention through mind-absorbing activities such as crossword puzzles, Sudoku or app. games like “Angry Birds.”
- Write a list of things you find relaxing or fun. Regularly schedule personal time for these activities to help you recharge.
- If friends or family members overwhelm you with questions about family planning, don’t react defensively or go into hiding.
- Instead, prepare responses ahead of time. You might say, “Thanks for asking; we don’t have anything to share at this time. Let’s focus on something else.”