Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. It motivates us when action needs to be taken, and it can empower us when we need to take a stand. However, it can become abnormal and disruptive when we cannot manage our anger in appropriate ways. Unfortunately, given the course of anger, we don’t recognize the inappropriateness until the damage is done.
Poorly managed anger can manifest itself in both obvious and more subtle ways. Identifying when you or others have an anger problem is a necessary step in changing our behavior. Read the following items to see if you have excessive difficulty coping with frustration. . .
- When you disagree with someone’s opinion, you find it difficult to stay calm and “bite your tongue.”
- During arguments, you slam doors, break glass, punch and kick walls, or destroy objects.
- When faced with the unexpected, you get frustrated easily and often “explode”
- Others have referred to you as “hot headed”, “ having a short fuse”, or having to “walk on eggshells” around you.
- You hold onto your anger for a long time by refusing to talk to loved ones and cutting off relationships.
- Others have told you that when you drink, you can be mean and nasty, just not yourself (“Jekyl and Hyde”)
Anger management difficulties can have serious consequences in many aspects of your life. First and foremost, poorly managed anger can damage relationships with loved ones, co-workers, and friends. People can begin to view you with fear, consider you hostile, and contribute to distrust among your closest supports. Secondly, unmanaged anger can significantly impact your physical health. It is not uncommon for high levels of anger to be associated with such short-term physical problems as headaches, digestion difficulties, and anxiety; while long-term ailments can include depression, alcohol abuse, high blood pressure, and increased vulnerability to heart attack and stroke.
By recognizing when anger is a problem, you are that much closer to taking the steps needed to living a calmer life. If you, a loved one, or co-worker thinks that anger may be problem, please contact us. The psychologists at Orenstein Solutions are experienced in anger management counseling, and can offer you specific strategies to effectively cope with stress and conflict.
We provide services in the Raleigh-Cary metropolitan area. We invite you to call us for a 15-minute free consultation call to discuss any questions or concerns you have about your specific needs, therapy and our practice.