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Are You Dissatisfied With Your Relationship or Marriage?
- You feel lonely, anxious or invisible around your partner.
- You long for more attention, affection or closeness.
- Your communication become tense or volatile or, alternatively, nonexistent.
- You’re nostalgic for how it used to be with your partner, when you adored, respected and valued each other.
It can feel painful, frustrating and lonely to be in a relationship that is full of conflict, silently strained or disconnected. Your relationship likely began with a strong foundation that weakened over time. But now, the negativepatterns of related may have become entrenched. You feel stuck, confused and are no longer willing to live the way you have been. You are seeking a couples or marriage counselor in hopes that you can get your relationship back on track. We can help. Learn about the PACT Approach.
Common Problems That May Be Bringing You into Couples or Marriage Therapy
Like many couples, the inability to resolve conflict in a loving way may be bringing you to couples therapy. You may have the same fights over and over. You can’t find common ground. The tension may be unbearable at times
Feelings of Love Are Weak or Non-existent
Or, perhaps the intimacy in your relationship has faded away and not it feels like you behave more like “roommates” than a couple. The love may have withered away.
Sexual Or Intimacy Problems
Your sex life may have deteriorated to the point where it is no longer enjoyable. One or both of you are not satisfied. Your sexual needs or desires do not seem to match one another.
A Betrayal or Affair
Or, it could be an infidelity that has broken your trust. Your relationship is in crisis and you don’t know if you will make it through this.
Whatever your specific situation, you’ve decided you want help. You want to save your relationship. If you don’t so something soon, you may fear that you are headed towards separation or divorce.
Couples Counseling Can Help You Reconnect & Make Your Relationship Stronger
If you and your partner are committed to improving your relationship, counseling with couples therapist, Dr. Susan Orenstein can be extremely beneficial.
Through couples counseling you and your partner can regain a sense of love, connection, and confidence. You will come to listen and understand one another both inside and outside of the therapy office.
Our goal is for you to “graduate” from relationship counseling when having become relationship experts. We want you to know how to nurture and sustain a healthy relationship so that you can continue to grow together after our therapy sessions are over.
Couples/Marriage Counseling Can Create More Understanding And Intimacy
During couples counseling, Susan will help you stop the destructive patterns within your relationship. Eliminating the hurtful ways you and your partner relate can make room for seeing your partner in a new way, increase loving behaviors and improve your communication.
You can develop new ways to discuss sensitive or difficult topics. You will listen to each other better and have more shared understanding.
Strong, Happy Individuals Have More Fulfilling Relationships
As you learn more about yourselves as a couple, you will also begin to better understand yourselves as individuals. You can identify your own needs and learn how to express them more honestly and respectfully.
You can become a stronger and happier person, while increasing intimacy in your relationship. Having two emotionally healthy individuals who can share, confide and nurture each other is the best recipe for sustaining a healthy relationship.
Although you may be feeling hopeless right now, with guided support and a willingness to change, it is possible to re-build your relationship and have it be even better than it was before.
We have seen couples teetering on the brink of break-up recommitted and connected just a few months later.
We know that you may feel nervous about attending couples therapy. Here are some things you may wonder about:
We desperately need help, but my partner won’t come for couples counseling.
If your partner truly is resistant to couples counseling, we invite you to come on your own. While therapy for couples is most effective when both partners are present and willing, there is a lot that you alone can do to improve the dynamic of your relationship. In therapy, you can explore the ways in which you handle conflict, as well as your strengths and blind spots. Your therapist can help you gain clarity on your needs, feelings and personal boundaries and help you develop clear, nonthreatening and loving ways to express yourself to your partner.
And, often, when one person starts relationship counseling, it sets the tone for change. By taking the first step, you can create an atmosphere for healthy risk taking and make a positive impression on your partner. It may create the encouragement and safety needed for your partner to also become interested in couples therapy.
I’m Worried Counseling Won’t Help. It takes time and it it’s a significant investment.
The only way to find out if couples counseling will work is to try it. Marital/couples counseling is an investment in yourself, your partner and your family. If you have children, you know that whatever is transpiring in your relationship – be it good, bad or ugly – impacts everyone in your home.
Outside of the home, your productivity at work and your engagement with friends and other family members may be negatively affected by the stress of a strained relationship.
By investing in your relationship now, you are not only creating the opportunity for everyone to feel better sooner, but you can also build a solid emotional foundation with your partner that you can draw on the rest of your life.
Couples/marriage counseling may also help you repair your relationship and avoid a costly divorce and/or the individual counseling you and/or your partner may need if your relationship continues to worsen.
I’m afraid that therapy will make everything worse.
It is highly unlikely that couples counseling will make matters worse. What therapy will do is make you and your partner more aware of what is occurring within your relationship and how you can improve it. This awareness can sometimes be painful, but honestly sifting and sorting through issues is necessary to move forward and heal. Until you really know what’s wrong, how can you go about fixing it?
If you have further questions about couples counseling, we invite you to call our Cary office for a 15-minute free consultation. We can discuss any questions or concerns you may have and discuss how couples or marriage therapy can help improve your relationship.
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